History Of Al-Anon
If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. Groups like these have been formed with the sole aim of being beneficial and therapeutic to such families.
Al Anon was founded in 1951 and is an organization which provides support to the friends and family members of people who are addicted to alcohol. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. She formed an organization for people similar to her, after confronting the hardships of assisting a recovering alcoholic in her own life. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
The fight against alcoholism is a joint undertaking and that is the objective of this support group.
Alcoholism Is A Family Illness
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. For an alcoholic to recover, they need the support of friends and family.
Sometimes alcoholics' family members blame themselves for their loved one's' drinking habits; they also may not fully understand why recovery should be their relative's priority. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings For Teenagers
A particular group called Alateen assists young people impacted by alcoholism in their family is also run by Al-Anon.
Teens get to associate with each other and share experiences of how alcoholism has affected them.
Why Join An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. The main benefit of Al-Anon is having an opportunity to find and talk with individuals who's had similar experiences. Al-Anon meetings are held all over the country. Give us a call on 0800 246 1509 to assist you find one close by you.
What You Can Expect From A Meeting
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
A number of people are not certain about what they can expect and are therefore, hesitant to attend their first meeting. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
- First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
- Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
- No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
- The Meetings Usually Vary
- There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
- Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
- Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
Al-Anon meetings are carried out under a slogan that encourages all attendees to "take only what they like, leaving the rest." The shared stories, of experiences, hardships, and victories encourages members to know how to handle their experiences.
Al-Anon And The Twelve Steps
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. Al-Anon members start with a sponsor who assists them work through the steps and who is ready for help in times of difficulty, mostly similar to AA. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Al-Anon members are taught that alcoholism is a disease they cannot cure in another person.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- members also learn they are driving themselves crazy by trying to change or control another person.
- After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
- Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Permitting them to dig into each issue, this is an examination of every thing in the members moral inventory.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- This step is highly essential as it is the complete acceptance of the recovery process supported by a Higher Power.
- Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
- This part of the twelve step process helps people realize how controlling or judgmental they have been towards an alcoholic and how counterproductive it is.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- The road to recovery is a personal effort.
- Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible unless to do so would injure them or others.
- After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
- Though a member made a list of things they did wrong, sometimes you may find yourself repeating some things.
- It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
- This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- The last step is a realization that the members journey has not finished.
- They are encouraged with support to use what they have learned to assist others.
What Is Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. However, the notion of "higher power" can be interpreted depending on one's personal beliefs. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.